A Narcississtic Method of Attributing Value To Others
Ensconced in a total "golly-gosh-am-i-bored-and-really-sick-of-people-at-the-moment-so-theres-no-point-in-calling-anyone-for-a-whats-up" session, i decided to download and try my hand at Sudoku (sudoku.com).
The seed had been planted a couple of nights before by some local news coverage. Apparently "everyone was playing it", which is simply not true. As far as i can tell no-one plays it. Except for the terminally bored that is.
Suduko is a numbers based crossword puzzle and requires that you be able to count all the way to 9. The idea is that given a 9 by 9 grid you have to fill that grid with numbers such that each column, row and 3 by 3 grid contains the numerals 1-9.
At first the idea of an intellectual challenge seemed just the thing to jump-start me out of the confines of my boredom. However, all too quickly i realised that i was just filling in squares with numbers. Uurgh!
With Sudoku, as with a crossword puzzle, the further along you get, the easier it becomes. A design flaw if you ask me.
Having completed just 25% of the grid it was easy to see that the "puzzle" had for all intents and purposes been solved and all that remained was the drudgery of completing the remaining 75%. Although the obsessive compulsive part of my personality screamed at me for recognition and demanded it be satiated, I wasn't about to blow a good 10 minutes worth of life doing something I didn't want to do, just so I could say I'd done it. So I saved and quit.
By not trudging through to the puzzles endpoint, I realised that the "save-and-quit" functionality of this puzzle was something of an analogy for many of the people in my life. Their purpose is simply to work the hand-offs I push their way. I was stunned by the realisation that these people who routinely bore, annoy, frustrate and just plain bother me, do in their own right possess some intrinsic value.... to me.
Without these people diligently trotting about finishing what I start, nothing I do would have any value because it wouldn't get done. Whilst I would never make the mistake of actually admitting it to them, the fact of the matter is that I "need" these people. I couldn't and wouldn't be the stallion-esk, visionary, go-getter that I am if it weren't for these people. My independance is founded on inter-dependance.
My advice therefore to anyone wishing to get something done is too gather yourself some good underlings. Afterall someones got to do the work for which we want credit. And while you should never show them their value, you should always know their value. That way you can manipulate them more masterfully.
And therein lie the basis of The Sudoku Teachings.
Its no great feat to be the most important person in an empty room. The value of your importance is directly related to the number of people beneath you. So while you should publicly need no-one, good advice would be to privately court everyone.